GROUNDED LEADERSHIP™

GROUNDED LEADERSHIP

Become The Leader You Were Meant To Be

A 12-week Christ-centered identity transformation program for high-achieving Christian men who want emotional steadiness, spiritual intimacy, and deeper connection in their homes.

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You’re successful in your life.

Now it’s time to feel grounded in your soul.

If you’re a Christian man who works hard, provides well, and carries a lot of responsibility — but still struggles with emotional reactions at home…

You’re not weak.
You’re not failing.
You’re not alone.
And you’re definitely not the only successful man feeling this way.

You’ve done well in your career.
You’ve built stability.
You’ve earned respect.
You’ve achieved in ways most people never will.

And yet…

In the places that matter most — your marriage, your children, your inner world with God — something still feels unsettled.

This isn’t because you’re not trying.
It’s because you’ve been using a model that can’t heal what needs healing.

You Are Not Alone

(THE RESEARCH)

What you’re experiencing is incredibly common — especially among strong, responsible men.

Barna research shows:

76% of Christian men feel like they’re not measuring up spiritually.
72% of Christian fathers feel like they’re failing spiritually

The American Psychological Association reports that:

69% of married men struggle with emotional availability

The Gottman Institute — the leading marriage research center — found that:

82% of wives don’t feel emotionally safe during conflict.

Long-term attachment research (including at the University of Minnesota) shows:

Emotional patterns repeat for three generations unless someone interrupts them

Harvard research shows:

78% of men shut down under stress

Specialists like Dr. Patrick Carnes found:

91% of men’s porn use is driven by stress, shame, or overwhelm — not lust.

Studies from the CDC show:

71% of fathers don’t feel confident managing their emotions

You are not the only man fighting this battle.

You’re simply one of the few willing to heal it at the root.

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The Real Pain You’ve Been Carrying

You love your family.
You want to show up well for them.
You want to be patient, calm, steady, and connected.

And yet…

When stress hits or emotions rise, you may find yourself:

Snapping
Shutting down
Withdrawing
Getting quiet or cold
Getting overwhelmed inside
Escaping into work, your phone, or the gym
Drifting into porn even though you don’t want it

And afterward…

Your wife tenses up.
Your kids get quiet.
You feel the distance in your home.
You feel the shame in your heart.

And you think:

“I don’t want to be this way.
Why does this keep happening?”

You’re not failing because you’re not trying.
You’re failing because the tools you’ve been taught…

cannot heal what needs healing.

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The Old Way

(And Why It Worked… Until It Didn’t)

Most high-achieving Christian men were raised with one emotional formula:

Push harder.
Try more.
Be tougher.
Don’t complain.
Power through.

And to be fair… It worked.

It helped you:

Succeed professionally
Overcome hardship
Provide for your family
Perform under pressure
Build discipline
Earn respect
Get things done

Your ability to push is a God-given strength.

But the same model that creates outward success

cannot create inner healing.

You can’t “push through” shame.
You can’t “outperform” emotional wounds.
You can’t “grind” your way into intimacy.
You can’t “discipline” your way into emotional safety.
You can’t “man up” your way into peace.

In fact…

The harder you push emotionally,

the more your nervous system shifts into fight, flight, or freeze.

This is not weakness.
This is human physiology.
This is how God designed your body to protect you.

The old way built your success.
But it cannot transform your heart.

Branches do not:

Strive

Grind

Force themselves into maturity

Earn their identity

The New Way

(Jesus' Way): The Vineyard Way

Jesus didn’t say:

“Try harder.”
“Force fruit.”
“Perform more.”

He say:

“I am the vine."
"You are the branches."
"Abide in me, and you will bear much fruit.”

Branches stay connected.

Fruit happens from safety, nourishment, and connection — not pressure.

In the old way, pressure was your fuel.

In the new way, safety becomes your foundation.

In the old way, you performed.

In the new way, you abide.

In the old way, you pushed.

In the new way, you grow deeper.

This is how emotional and spiritual transformation begins.

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Why Trying Harder Never Worked

(Science + Scripture)

Psychologist Roy Baumeister found that under stress, willpower drops by 40–60%.

The moments you MOST want to stay calm…
are the moments your brain is LEAST able to.

Dr. June Tangney’s research shows that shame increases the behaviors we’re trying to stop.

Neuroscience work from Dr. Stephen Porges shows that under emotional threat, your body automatically enters fight, flight, or freeze.

Stanford behavioral research shows that identity-level change is far more powerful than habitbased change.

And Scripture says the same thing:

“Perfect love casts out fear.” — 1 John 4:18

Fear can modify behavior temporarily.
But only love transforms identity.

This is why willpower and discipline — as powerful as they are — cannot transform the emotional root.

The Vineyard Path

(Your Transformation Framework)

Grounded Leadership™ uses a four-stage process rooted in Scripture, neuroscience, emotional safety, and spiritual formation.

1 - SOIL

Emotional Safety with God

Where shame dissolves
Where fear quiets
Where pressure releases
Where you begin to experience God’s love in your nervous system, not just your theology

2 - ROOTS

Identity & Inner Healing

Where emotional wounds from childhood
And past experiences
Are healed at the source.
Where your emotional triggers lose their power
Because the roots that feed them have healed.

3 - BRANCHES

Grounded Emotional Presence

Where you learn to regulate anger, sadness, fear, and overwhelm.
Where your wife begins to relax around you.
Where your kids feel safe coming close.
Where you become steady, warm, calm, and connected.

4 - FRUIT

Leadership, Habits, Purpose, Legacy

Where emotional steadiness becomes your daily life.
Where your home becomes peaceful.
Where intimacy grows naturally.
Where your leadership becomes consistent.
Where your family legacy changes.

This is identity transformation — not behavior modification.

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Who You Become

A grounded man is:

Calm during conflict
Connected in conversation
Emotionally steady
Spiritually rooted
Intimately present
Confident without pressure
Patient with his children
Safe to be close to
Strong in a new way — the way Jesus described

This is the transformation you’ve always wanted but never had the framework for.

The Generational Impact

If you don’t heal this…

your children will take on the same emotional patterns.
Your tone becomes their inner voice.
Your stress becomes their stress.
Your reactivity becomes their model for adulthood.

But when YOU heal…

Your children learn emotional safety directly from you.
Your home becomes peaceful.
Your legacy becomes different.

This is how generational change begins.

What You Get in Grounded Leadership™

Grounded Leadership™ is a 12-week, deep identity transformation program.

You’ll receive:

Weekly coaching
Identity rewiring
Emotional regulation training
Inner healing tools
Spiritual formation practices
Marriage and fatherhood integration
The Vineyard Path™ curriculum
Christ-centered community
Supportive accountability rooted in compassion, not shame
A permanent shift in your internal world

This is not a quick fix.

This is formation.

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About Dr. Mike

Dr. Mike Frazier graduated Magna Cum Laude in Neuroscience from BYU. He earned his MD from UCLA, one of the top medical schools in the country. He completed his psychiatry residency at UC Irvine and is a board-certified psychiatrist.

His clinical work includes:

Emotional regulation
Trauma
Attachment
Identity formation
Neuroscience of change
Family systems

More importantly, he is:

a follower of Christ, a husband, a father of five, and a man who had to walk this exact healing journey himself

He teaches not theory —
but the path God IS usING to transform him.

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Imagine 12 Weeks From Now

Imagine:

Your wife looking at you with trust.
Your kids feeling safe around you.
Your home feeling peaceful.
Your emotions feeling grounded.
Your walk with God feeling alive.
Your internal reactions losing their old power.
Your future looking different than your past.

This is what happens when transformation begins at the root.

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